When you’re single the arrival of Valentine’s Day can cause some major anxiety. Couples are everywhere you look and every piece of advertising is designed to make you feel like you’re inferior if you’re not part of a couple. It’s enough to make you want to go to bed immediately after work on Valentine’s Day with a bottle of wine and Netflix on your tablet and not reemerge until the next morning.
But being single on Valentine’s Day can be amazing. Forget all about the unrealistic expectations and remember, everyone’s life looks better on Instagram. This year you’re on your own and you can celebrate your way. Because you have a lot of love in your life even if you’re single. You’re in a relationship with the most important person in your world – you. Valentine’s Day is the perfect time for some self-care and celebration with your best friends. Let these celebratory tips inspire you to make this Valentine’s Day the best Valentine’s Day yet because this year it’s all about you:
1. Buy Yourself Some Lingerie
Just because you’re not in a committed relationship doesn’t mean you can’t feel sexy and look amazing just for you. Buy yourself a pretty chemise or a gorgeous bra and panty set just because you want to and not to impress anyone else. Great lingerie should make you feel strong, powerful, and sexy and those are qualities that you should be celebrating every day. Have you been putting off buying some sexy lingerie until you’re in a relationship? Stop putting it off! Buy one really fabulous piece of lingerie that you’ve always wanted just for yourself.
2. Organize a Single’s Pajama Party
Hanging out with your besties on Valentine’s Day is a fun way to make sure that your friends know how much they mean to you. After all, Valentine’s Day isn’t just about celebrating romantic love, it’s about celebrating friendship too. Have all your friends over in their PJs for a grownup sleepover with wine and pizza and a John Hughes movie binge. Watching Pretty In Pink in your PJs with your best friends is a whimsical way to celebrate Valentine’s Day.
3. Do Something For Someone Else
Helping others is always a good thing to do. Volunteer to babysit so your sibling or best friend can go out with their partner or volunteer at the animal shelter reading to shelter dogs or playing with shelter cats. Who wouldn’t want to spend a few hours with puppies and kittens?
4. Give Yourself A Spa Day
You don’t need someone else to gift you something amazing. You can give it to yourself. Give yourself a spa day at a spa that you have always wanted to try. Or at least get yourself a facial and a mani/pedi if you can’t take the entire day off work. Pamper yourself.
If you’ve just gotten out of a really bad relationship or if you’re having a hard time on Valentine’s Day for any reason this year don’t feel pressured to celebrate. Some years it’s hard to come up with a reason to feel happy or to feel empowered. That’s ok. If you really want to just forget about Valentine’s Day do it. Just make sure you’re doing it because it’s what you want and need. Take a hot bath or a hot shower and go to bed at 6 PM if that’s really what you want to do.
6. Send Real Valentine’s And Not Valentine’s Day Texts
Making crafts isn’t just for kids. This year construct your own valentines for your family and friends and send them in the mail. Your loved one will love getting a real handmade valentine from you. Spread the love by having a craft party and inviting friends over to make valentines of their own.
7. Buy Some New Plants
Valentine’s Day flowers are great but when was the last time you bought new house plants? Plants are very healthy to have in your home. They clean the air and improve your mood as well as brightening up your space and making your home feel more relaxing. Skip the overpriced roses and buy yourself some new plants for your home instead.
8. Get Away From It All
Give yourself the gift of solitude for Valentine’s Day and get out of town. Book an AirBnB by the beach or up in the mountains and give yourself a mini-vacation. Just 24 hours spent in a beautiful natural setting will give you the chance to meditate, relax, and reflect on the goals you want to accomplish this year.
9. Start A Gratitude Journal
Pick up a pretty blank book and decorate it. Use paint, stickers, fancy craft paper, or anything else that you think is fun and festive and reflects your personality. Start a gratitude journal where you will list at least 5 things you’re grateful for every day. Focusing on the good things in your life and the relationships that sustain you will attract more good things to you throughout the year.
10. Write Love Letters – To Yourself
Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to kick off a year of self-love. Get a pretty glass jar or a vase, whatever kind of container you want as long as it’s big enough. Apothecary jars work really well for this. Then buy yourself a big stack of Post Its in pink and red and white and all the colors that you love. Every night before you go to bed write down the date and one thing you loved about yourself that day on a piece of paper. Fold it and stick it in the jar. Next Valentine’s Day read them all and remind yourself to always love yourself first.